Being a Teen

Once upon a time, there was a guy,

Having good time, he was not shy!

Friends, the fun and the happening,

Though, studies was a prestigious thing!

Resources were less,feelings were more,

There was no mess, not much to care!

Time has passed, things are changed,

now, no time-pass, and always engaged!

Fun is changed, as the friends are apart,

No studies, doing work and been smart!

Happening is now to have the routine,

The best part of life, is to being a teen!

Do you have real 'Social Network'?

Social network...The word says it all, we all know what it means on net. Today everyone of us have Twitter, Facebook, Orkut etc... accounts used as Social network which connects to you more and more people, making a chain of friends of friends of friends .... and friends!

This is good, to connect to friends and new peoples online. Also it seem to be an easy way to communicate, so its widely used. But have you ever thought what a real Social Network means? It means to live in Social group, to be Social by nature, attitude and doings. It means to be in relations other than colleagues, family and friends and keep them live.

We all know that human is the best creation of nature, and they evolved day by day with new things in life. But as our life goes ahead, we forgot the main logic behind mankind. It is, mankind is always different than other animals in a way he behaves. We all forgot this truth which makes us special and different than others.

Since mankind created on earth, man had always been in groups and created the societies. From there the world social came right? And today, what we have done? We have just kept the word, not the meaning. The social networking technology today is good for use, but not to be addicted much that you forgot your originality.

I always say, "man has created technology for his ease, not the technology created us". It always be in our control. It's same like SkyNet from "Terminator" Movie. Technology is taking our minds and being our basic need, it should not be.

Remember the time before 1995-1990s, when people used to talk on phones, send letters, visit their loved ones, make real communities who have meetings in month etc...They lived without net friends, and better than us I think. Ask your parents Or grand-parents, how they have enjoyed their life before, and you will know what you are really missing.

Find your real friends... relatives... neighbors ... family members from your parents' natives... and meet them face to face... Build your own relationships with such a real society, and let Facebook shame on itself. It's just a idea for earning by your online time wasting. I don't say it's a bad idea. Use it, but don't get addicted.

Be real... Be Social... by the rules of mankind's nature... Understand the root element of human life...Relations...Isn't it?

Don't make yourself very comfortable ...

Life is very complex friends, It shows different roles and things as you go. We all are used to things we like either for need or for luxury. We always been dependent on things which mostly of are enjoyment or facilities. And far most is, we want life to be stable, like every horse of the stable does what you want.

But, have you ever thought that if one day any of the horse makes you surprise by not obeying you? Here I mean horse by incidents, work or any doable which you always want according to yourself. Human mind is very powerful and also very mad in the sense of thinking. We always think that, "this will work so that will also work". We always build bridges of dreams, but we don't know that they are all imaginary. It can break at any time.

We always been comfortable to thing we used to. I know this is nothing you I am telling you, but let me tell you this is the most dangerous thing. What happens when situations go wrong? It doesn't mean we should always think negative, but don't think every time positive. People mentally brakes when things go wrong. When someone loses job/business, gets frustrated and being very aggressive they choose wrong paths. This is not what life is for.

Life is full of surprises. People always want settled life, no one wants a job like Jacky Chan of "Shanghai Noon"! But people forget that facilities and luxuries are making us very comfortable, making the tolerance power and immunity of mind very low. Our mind and body is not able to bear hard conditions because it can't live without such things. It should not be so. I am not anti-luxury person, but what I feel is, "Use thing in manner and as needed". Just try to avoid things which are trying to make you feel fear of loss, which makes you so comfortable that you can't live without it.

"Everything must be in our control" is idle condition, but it's not always true. So always be prepared for unwanted and unexpected things. Just don't loosen your mind in hard conditions and be thoughtful, be simple, believe in life and love it. Love the world around you, except your daily schedules try to find something new around yourself.

Facilities and Luxuries are made by us and for us, before that also humans were always been living life and more joyful than now. Then why binding life to such physical things? Make sure, that you are using the things, not the things making you use them. 

Don't bind your life in barriers of physical assets/luxuries. This gives you fear and makes you coward. Such people always afraid of life and think ,"what will we do if we lose these things?"

Make yourself strong enough to live the life joyfully in any condition either it's in favor or not...After all, that is what life is all about. Isn't it? :)

Problems are created by us...

Problem, a word which has something in itself, that shakes everybody. Everyone in the world has some problems, rather its an animal or a human being. And that is what we call life right? If everything is perfect in the world, everything is as what we want it to be then world will be like machine. Even machine have problems, so you cannot call it machine also :).Then it will be something very perfect for which i don't have words to explain.

Different person have different definition for problem. The thing what can be a problem for me it’s not always be for others. May be it seems very easy or usual thing to others...or may be harder to tolerate for some? But that's not what we are talking here what it is for people.

Thing is, problem is created by us for ourselves! Yes, you will not accept this and may call me mad but this is truth. Things are made complex by us even though they are very simple in reality.

Just think of situations where you have faced problems, the circumstances, the surroundings, the people, the place everything. And then think what happened because of which action (or reaction?). Sure you will find an answer for this and know that we can avoid some problems by our own understandings and nature. Some are issues which are not problems but we make them big thing.

First thing we must remember is, human is the best thing and the worst thing in the world. So being human is not the thing, but being a good human is the achievement.

Second is life goes as per our doings but we are not the drivers. We should keep living, rather than worrying for every small and the little thing in life. We make little things big and creating problems for ourselves. Avoid things which can be, be calm and be happy with what you have. Enjoy life as like its your birthday daily! Yeah, I know this sounds crazy but its the way.

The one who is fearless and without worries, enjoying life at every moment and calm is the happiest in the world. Let the problem come and we should face it. We will surely learn from it and next time you will be more confident about it. If you can sleep like hell without worries that is what life is about. Be happy, be real, be what you are for. And then you will see most of the things which seem to be a problem are really not! Voila, isn't it great? Yep it is... but for that you need to be calm and strong, need to tolerate things and keep mind in a natural state.

I hope I can also do the same :)...but let’s try my friends... such way... maybe we can change our life ... and thus... slowly... the world.... who knows....!

Last success in Life...

    Its not that people always want to change things in life, but sometimes life inspires or make  them impateince. Also its true that what people think is not always happens with them.


    Some times what you want is not actually your desire, but you just want it to show others and satisfy your egoism. And life always go as she wants, not as we want. Though we think that things are done by us, but its life's decision which intends us to do things.


    People sometimes think to do something and as a result if they fails, they blame others and destiny. But life already has decided the path for you. Thing is, we are accepting all what we have or not. If we accept what we are and what we have, life seems going easy.We should think as said by lord shri krishna in 'Geeta',

"Just do your work without thinking of the result because that will create a constant thoughtful state of mind which eventually becomes the reason of your problems. And while doing your work you will be distracted.".

    This will lead us to the ultimate destiny and will not have any regrets or confusions in mind. It let you be in a devine condition which is only possible to reach if we have no doubts, no negative-positive thoughts and no misconceptions regarding ourselves.

Fourth stage of growth...

In life, when after getting best working experiences and knowledge he gets wealth, love, status and relationships, the raising of best qualities and humbleness will be the fourth stage of growth!

Mankind is better ...

In mythological history, the angles always seek help from super god for their problems. For them, super god is always the last time chain pulling in train! Whenever they got some problem they just ran away to super gods. That’s why mankind is better. Men got things which are not available to angles and daemons. That is… the strength of prayers… and saints company…

Path of success...

The path of success is always crowded of men who are always having a helping wife!

Fear of death...

Though life is interesting for everyone, the word death gives as much fear. There is rarely a person who has no fear of the death. The fact for this is not the death or its time but our own life style. We live in the world becoming its part and don’t think ahead of it. So that we always been feared of leaving the world. If we remove bonding and fear from world, then will not be any fear of death.

At a new place...

Hi friends, hi to all after so long time.I have been quite busy in changing my job.Yeah, i have been trying since 2 3 months and finally have done it! Today i completed 1 month here and now got some times to write something as a real re thinker :).

Its been some what hard to change my job after a long period of 3 years in the previous company.But finally i have decided and taken the action.So was busy in starting days learning new things and settling down here.The experience helps in life but we have to move on with new things,new people and of course new technology if we are in the real field:)! Yeah, same here with me here.I am learning new technologies for my work and enjoying the new environment while getting in balance with new people.

Sometimes i miss my friends and the old team, but it happens to everyone.As i think, you have to take some desicions.To get something we must forget others :(!I miss those days with my friends in parties,movies,lunches and suppers :).The long night stay at the company also can be a good moment:).It feels like i have lost all my spice but time will take care of it.And if we always stop ourselves because of emotions then the world will not grow.

Still life is important and friends are like elixir.We must be in touch with our loved ones :).

Life - as per 'A happy crow'

In my childhood, I heard one story which was very popular. And might some of you know it. It tells about how one could find happiness from any kind of situations. I don't remember it fully, but I am writing what it says in some manner.

Story:
Once upon a time, a crow flying in the sky went in the king's palace. And he had done something which the king didn't liked. He ordered his men to catch the crow and give him punishment.

The men caught him. But in their surprise, the crow didn't noticing them and even not threatened! He was enjoying even that harassing situation. Then the king decided to give different sort of tortures to him.

They lied him on the hot plates on flames, but the crow was dancing on the plate and enjoying and also singing! They all are surprised.

They drawn him into the water but the crow was enjoying singing that 'i have not taken bath since some days, thank you dear king'.

He had not only tolerated but enjoyed his time during all tortures. The king was amazed by this and felt very confused.

He then left him and asked that why he is not feeling any kind of pain or problems? And what the crow has answered can be amazing for you also!

The crow answered,

"What will be happen I don't know and what is happening is not in my hands. I can't do anything for that but why should i waste my current time in the worries? I must enjoy the time i have right now which is given by god and can't be taken by anyone. That’s what all I do. I enjoy everything everyday and every time!"

The king and his men amazed and left the crow and praised him for his wisdom and fun loving nature.

What you think? This isn't truth? Just think about it, we are always in hurry and worry of something for future forgetting our present time which we have right now. We are always worried about what will happen and not enjoying our life.

What is life? It’s a chain which is made of small moments which we have enjoyed and remembered. That is what life is for. To live, love and be happy with family. :)

Why Murphy's law seems to be true?

I am always curious about this that why it always seems true that when we want something we never get it easily.But its right i mean you all think that how many times you have faced situations like when you want and not getting it done? :)

I have faced it many times.When i want to change something,i can't find things in my favor.Its always like god is not in your favor and always try to keep you trying hard before you got succeed!

I tell you what happened to me this week.Its a rainy season here and i always carry a bigger umbrella with me. And i swear, even not a single time i used it during last 4 days up to Thursday. And on Friday,i got a tiny umbrella to use which can't bear heavy rain. And in my surprise,that day i was accompanied by heavy rain! Even i got wet while coming from hotel in lunch time!:)

This is the latest story which i told. There are plenty of cases when we always thought that why this happens to me only?

But we never looked around us and so was i. I never thought in this way. But one day i thought that it might be i am wrong. Yeah, it can be that when you have something you don't need it. So you don't care about it and so not giving any attention to things. But when you want things, you forgot that you had things when you were never waiting for it. I mean when you were not paying attention to it or not wanting it.

Now i started thinking this way. May be it looks like when we not get anything we want easily,we can be afraid of things or will power can be lowered down.But what i think is we should face such situations and must learn thins from them.

If anyone get everything in their first effort only,then the world will not be like this. We even can't think of it :).

So,be happy..be strong..trying for things...and always face the world :).

~Rain~

Rain is coming,making the climate,
its not so early but not too late.

Trees are friends,brings the rain,
don't kill them,you won't get pain.

making land soft,filled with moisture,
its time to hurray, when rain is here.

Everything is clean,everything is green,
cool wind and water,feels like heaven.

Falling from the sky,i think to fly,
summer bites here, so never say bye.

Tours- My last two weekends...

I have been on tour (actually you can say a little traveling :)) since last two weekends.

0n 13th June, I left for pune for a 3 days tour. It was managed so quickly, that I can't get my friend's cam with me :(. Things were cool when we left from here in bus.

But as someone said, 'Not everything happens in our favor when you are in between something'(I don't know who said, may be I? :)). And that happened to me also. Our bus got punctured after 200Kms from here (Baroda). And in my surprise, the sophisticated drivers can't even open the tier for replacement! Ha ha, can you believe that they taken more than 3 hours to replace the tire? Yeah, it was so boring to seat idle when no one knows you and you had not eaten something since 3 hours! But then god helped them and they got it done! Voila!

But someone there has a problem. He had one important exam in the morning. And the bus can't reach on time as per the current situation. The atmosphere was hot of shouts :).And finally they left with another option I think. Even one person who came from there, returned in the next morning from the next station (surat @ 6 AM) as he got hint of being too late for his work and worthless being there! I also was confused about the situation.

In addition to this, heavy rain is our companion for more than 5 hours of path! What to say now? The speed is controlled by the traffic and rain, and people had a nice boring sleep! Still I had a hope to reach about 1PM noon the next day. But all I was wrong and reached there @ 4PM on 14th June, the next day. Count it, it was 21 hours in a hopeless crap bus having AC which we don't want and no speed! I was too tired but my friend was there to pick me up. I was 8 hours late, can you believe that? :)

That was not superb, but ok trip. I had not much time as because of one 'function' there. So finished it all up and I was back here. Now, I will talk about second small trip which is a good experience.

0n 20th, last Friday, I was at my uncle's place. He was going to one pilgrimage by walk. It is 50 kms far from the home. And I was hired to drive the car with the luggage :).

Most different thing is we go on the whole night and sleep all the day. I must stay at every 2 or 3 kms from them as may be they need something while walking. Rather than driving I should say pulling the car :).

It was so boring to stop at every 2 kms and waiting for them.50 kms in 2 nights, 25 on each night. The road was almost empty having very less traffic as the area through which we go is like a jungle. Some places are too empty and feels horrible. Even you can here sound of every smallest thing happens. Instead of this feeling, I was bored because I can't even take a nap :(.

Only thing I fear is a dog! The dogs, which just run behind every car passing through barking constantly! So when ever I see dogs, I even pull the lights of the car off if is stop there. So, they don't bark and disturb me. And yeah, I can't get off the car to rip off :).

At some places, we got some snacks, taken rest for a while. It was totally different experience for me, too stop on the road. One person in the farm, near which I had arranged my car, was too curious about me that why I was there and doing what by stopping the car? It was funny too, as he got one hard stick and then also feared. He just started shouting and i was ignoring him, taking nap. Finally he got out of the farm, on the other side of the road, asking me. I explained him the situation and then he got his heart down :). He told me that he had his crops there in the farm for which he was staying there to keep it safe. I laughed and so he also :)!

Yeah it was tire able, but though I enjoyed. And in the morning, when all they got in the car, everyone is desperate about driving because of sitting positions. Everyone wants to sit comfortably on the driver's seat, but I never let them!

This was my 2 weekends, some mess and some enjoyment :)

The corporate play…

One sunny day, you reached the workplace, found you are one of them who are in early. But still the HR has not come! You just start your PC, check some mails and browse some sites. After a small cup of hot tea you start your work. You always do finish your work first.

May be people around you see movies, always on their (i)Phone talking with somebody or chatting continuously on net, but you are not doing it always for a long time.

Some are chain smokers, smoke 15 to 20 cigarettes per day and at least 10 minutes for each cigar. You never smoke, never take extra cup of tea (even not from you vending machine) and never waste time with smokers outside. You never have time to waste if you have work and in free time you read stuff related to your job things. And you never need to post a note "Don't waste your time here if you have" to show others that you are the only one who works most hard.

In the noon, you got into some stuff. And people point out that some are using resources badly. Its fine if it was up to that. It was gone to extent limit and discussed about what had happened previously before you joined the company and got a big black mail of not being fired because of something which was done by the wrong decisions of some people who might have always bad dreams every night and hopeless thoughts about people working very neatly on their things! The person talks about unrelated things and make all of you feel very bad that you are the most wanted fool and they had done greatness to you! Even all things are ok, everything is fine, and the person never appreciated you all. And whom they had appreciated can be their dear one who only does his work! You all have been told to do things which are not related to your profile whenever you are free, rather than improving your skills in your area! At least everybody needs some appreciation if the work is fine without any big problems. But you can't hope it. Huh, I know this is very long but you will understand it :). May be every one of you have been through this situation.

You can't believe it because the person, who should do things like making business and the company big growing venture, is doing funny and irritating things. If big companies, who were not big when started, always have thought like this then they never grown big. I think this is not bad for the people but bad for company. Because no one will be in if such things are known to the world!

Some people thought that things are ok. And they always say right about the person. May be as others thinks they can be close to or favorite ones of the person! Or maybe they are given rewards for this only! They believe in showing every small thing to the person, showing themselves as good and excellent. Yes it’s good to show your goodness but it’s bad to show others as fool or bad worker even if you are not as good as him!

It’s never been liked being rude to your colleagues and playing a game of betrayals, but corporate is corporate. We all have to face such things. But everything has its limit and every dong has his day. Today may be it is someone's day but may be you will get a chance. But the hope of 'all things will be well' is what everyone thinks. Hope its truth, but i don't think so. You have to do something and change it.

God bless all and give all of you the power and strong thoughts to think something which can be helpful to you and others also.

Why hard to accept

In our life, we do things which may be right or wrong. Even we know, we will not accept things. Accepting in the sense that 'yes, I have done this and this is right' or 'yes, i am sorry. It's wrong'.

But I think many of us can not do this. If keeping professional talking apart, I like to make things clear. In relationships other than you business, the person must keep transparency. It means if you know thing are not well, you should accept it. May be it's your fault? Making things clear with your friends, family and loved ones is the key which keeps your relations very neat and clean.

I have seen things which are not good for relationships. It hurts when it reaches at saturation point because every thing and every one has their own limits. Relations will get punished by yourself and because of your mistakes if you don't understand it properly and take actions to prevent it.

I don't what will happen to such a person if relations going to be broken. May be he will suffer from loneliness and feeling guilty for the whole life for the mistakes he has made!

Update - 23rd March, 2008: Jay has written a nice article "Never late to mend" after reading this post. He has shown a very common incident, may be happened with each of us. But what he has done after that, is so uncommon. And we all should remember this in life, not to forget to ask and give for forgiveness if you know your mistakes.

True friends can have telepathy...

Yes, I am not joking. This is the true thing happened to me.

It was not weekend though I was very much tired. Not because of my work but being alone and no friends' meet since last 15 days or so. I just dropped at the bus stop nearer to my home and walking towards home. Suddenly I saw a car which remembered me of my good friends. I thought may be he is here. Then I though oh god, he is far away from here about some 5000 Kms. I thought if he is here then we gonna a do lot of fun here. I went to home.

The next day, when I reached my office, doing my work, I got a call from the same friend whom I missed last night! He said, he is here since yesterday! I got amazed and told him also that I just missed you last night though you are here. We met that night and did a lot of fun together, talked so much and missed our school days :).

What you will call this? This is not co-incident, as this happens with me many times. And yeah, I believe in such things also. I think this is called true friendship, because of which we are bounded to our friends. The feeling is so strong that it creates a vibration in you and you can have feel of another person when he/she is around you or missing you. Otherwise you just think why I missed him that night only? I see many cars daily i mean. Then what's so special that night? I call this telepathy, which we Indians believe is a true feeling between your loved ones.

Do what you like; it’s not a waste of time...

I was fond of web publishing since my college days. About five years back, i was in college and we made a group of friends who look into new technologies on internet and find new things. We always wanted to know about things which are new and interesting. Specifically, I was interested in web publishing, writing etc.

I started blogging about 2 to 3 years back. I was more of like to share things. Make reviews, news and all technical information at one place. There was no purpose of making money from it; I just like to create it. It helps me and others in learning or knowing new things. I love blogging because it helps you grow your knowledge, gives you pleasure that you do something creative and also increases your interest in things.

After some 1 year, I got Google ad sense for my blog. Why because I got some good collection of quality and content on it. Its all about how you manage things. I heard from a friend and submitted my blog, and they given me ad sense account. After making my blog quite popular and informative, having good quantity and quality, now after more than a year I got my new domain for it.

When ever I show it to some guys, they always think that I wasted my time in making such nice thing which is not earning as much as it should. I told them that that’s not the purpose for which I started it. I started it because I like to write. Now may be it can help me earning some buck so I can maintain it with new domain. But if its not, then it doesn't mean I should close it or should stop blogging.

May be some day I can get good ads from some big advertisers :)! Or may be not, but that should not be the primary thing if I like to blog for my satisfaction.

And when I helped some to make blogs and how to manage things, they want it immediately in Google index search. I told them that we can't do anything in that except keep posting quality content. May be even you don't need to be in Google search if people like your writing. But some of them are feeling jealous of me that why I am having such a big content full blog? Dude, I have it because I am doing things since 2 years. Its not great thing, anyone can do it if he wants to. They don't like i blog and show them nice tutorials and etc. They want to do blogging for money. I told that if you start like this, then it’s hard to keep your quality. Because you always be in hurry to add more content, though it’s not of your interest!

I think people should do what they like to do. May be others think that you are wasting your time but it doesn't matter. You must keep doing things. If you do proper management and hard work, one day it will help you and gives you the result which may be differ then what you want but always be good :).

So, keep doing things :).

Olden days - golden days...

Hi all.

On my b'day, I am just doing stuff at my job place. And was thinking of my childhood. Ah! It feels very nice mates. It feels like heaven when I remember my olden days. Actually I should call them 'golden days'

yes, in true sense, I miss those days. When in vacation i was at my home town, playing with all friends there and no worries, nothing i need to take care of. My granny just yelling at me even she loves me because she cares for me. All we do is play, play and play! Always roaming in the small town, in the farms, under the trees, around the ponds and... Those were amazing days i mean.

My granny makes good meals for us, save us from everyone who yells at us to stop noise and stay quite. :) That’s the best thing in the world. It feels like you are the ling of the world and nothing matters to you. You only like to have fun as a child. We take mangoes and almonds from trees of the farms. Though sometimes the farmers, who don't know us ran after with the stick and stones. :) God bless them!

But things changed gradually. Small town is now some what big. Though some things never change at all, but its not the same place which I loved once. And even not i am the same one who likes to stay there, scream and play there!

I am now grown, a big boy working as a software Engineer in some foreigner firm, who never gets time now for playing something outdoor. I hardly get some time to visit my old friends. Though I visit my town every month or later but i can't meet all my friends. All my school friends are now far far away (not as in shreak we have :) ) from my place. Some friends who are like me ( who loves there home and got jobs nearby) are here with me. When ever me meet, we talk so much remembering our school days, our time when we never thought of something what we will do in future and always enjoyed.

To all, the thing i want to tell you is keep your friends, relatives and loved ones near you if possible. Don’t let them go away from your heart. Though you are far from them, you can tell them that you miss them and want to stay together. Having a friends' meet is the best thing in world.

So, a toast for all who miss their golden times. :)

God bless all.

The Art of Convincing - a gift i think :)

This is about how people make you feel and understand something as their way, what they want to show you.This is an art.You can say 'Art of healing' like thing. Or you can say get entrusted! :)

Yah and this kind of people are always make others start thinking about any point.May be its nice thing sometimes and also sometimes they make fool of them!:)

No really, i have seen thing like these happening.If you check around you, you will sure find it.Some people are good at language and give others time to think on point.Also they give kind of reasons why they are saying this in between.

I don't understand if the talk is not of your interest then why should you want to make other thinking your way.yah in generel talk we can share out thoughts but in some work related things or say desicion making , you should say the truth only instead of making the person confuse and feel him wrong!You must tell him the truth and suggest things as per it and thats why we human beings are here for!

As per me, everyone has his points and we must not oppose on everything.You can say your views ofcourse but in the right way:).

After all, humans are for helping each other, not to make others feel irritating about things they do.

This is about the wrong ones.Now talk about the nice ones.This is a quality,a skill which can help you in business.And as the world says,"everything is fair in bussiness".These things are the marketting strategies of today!

You can see mane ads daily on TV,newspapers,tabloids etc.They all are using their power, their art of making things look better and encourage people to use and buy the thing.This is the way how the world is growing helping each other in bussiness and keeping rotation of money chain. :)

Don't think that i am some financial analyzer :).I am just talking about things because i think its not with everyone.Some people are too smart and can work this way,make their purpose solved and we don't know even. May be in that its your benifit or your loss!

Some people don't think before they do things.May be they are good at others but its also a chance that others can use them!

But, the thing is that this art must be learned! :D yah... it can help you making your things ;) and also people think of you as a smart one ;) :D. Just joking, its a thing in nature, you cant take it but you can keeo it in mind while doing something.

write up here,make things better and smartness is a gift like logic and beauty!